I began the morning in a foul mood. Well, once I remembered foolish things said and done, emotions felt and guilt possessing me. As I tried to push these thoughts out of my head, I fell into a familiar pattern: stuck in a thought without an outer action, then trying to do something else while the thoughts macheted their way back into the forefront jungle of my mind.
So I did what I always need to do: surrender to those thoughts and feelings, hoping that processing them will make them stop. This works, briefly, but then I settle into state of slight discontent.
I needed to do my laundry today, desperately. Mostly desperately. I borrowed a shirt from Matt and put on the one skirt I brought (not worn since ‘the incident’) which I later discovered has a small stain on it. I easily found my way to the laundry, put in my shekels and let it roll.
But then I began to ponder drying my clothes. Should I? Is it just a waste of money? Matt said he hasn’t dried his clothes since he’s been here but alas, I am more picky and want my jeans dry now. They’re my new security blanket and the closest thing I have to be fashionable, my fall back blanket. I choose to dry but realize that the bill feeder on the machine is broken and I must rustle up some shekel coins. I had heard of a mini mart and seen signs but not stumbled upon it. I head out, wander for 7 minutes yet feeling much longer, increasingly frustrated and self conscious of my actions.
Sidenote: I hate being self conscious. I hate valuing other people’s opinions yet it was the exact reason I was in such a bad mood this morning. And it is usually the source of many of my varied frustrations. I do not understand (or rather am just jealous of) those who don’t ever seem to care what others think, nor have they ever. I get that in fleeting glimpses. I hope for it everyday but perhaps it just needs to flow.
Conceding to my lack of knowledge I suck it up and ask someone. ”Just around the corner.” Of course it is. I enter, purchase the three things I get in every country (a can of Coke, Snickers bar and large water. 2 of these purchases need to stop) and receive my shekel coins. Laundry is dropped in to dry and I have 30 minutes to fill. (yes, Mr. Cwodzinski, fill. I take this advice with me everywhere I go and spread it like Israel hummus on fresh pita: most generously).
Not knowing what to do, I step outside into the sun and glance to my left at the playground. Presumably for those students with children. There is a swing set with 2 seats. Reminiscing about how much fun I always had as a child, I head towards them.
My, how time has changed things. The swings are much lower to the ground than I remember and the metal hooks dig slightly into my womanly hips. I cannot recall the last time I sat on a swing but certainly it was before I got these curves. Settling in, I gently begin to swing.
And swing and swing and swing. I cannot put my legs under to pump so I hold them straight out, doing all the work with my arms and abs. (Only as an adult would I notice how swinging works your core). And glee fills me. It breaks past the self pity and indulgent guilt. A smile cracks my sullen veneer. I’ve jumped out of planes and off mountains to get a rush but the simple and childhood act of swinging brings it forth and sustains it. I no longer care what the world thinks because I realize how silly, how foolish, how absolutely ridiculous it all is.
I swing and rock out to She & Him until I need to fetch my laundry. Then I set off, renewed.
May 27, 2008 at 7:26 pm
Ashley, I have just had the opportunity all the postings since May14th. You make me so proud to learn of your insights(and scare) about choices and the experiences with the muslin women. I just finsihed Doug Pagitt’s book to be released officaially June 14th—realy speaks to what ayou are experiencing on how to be a Christian daily. i will have a copy for you when you come home. Along with Foster’s book, I think Tolle’s book will be a fabulous combination. god Bless you. Love MOM